Why Women Stay

One of the biggest misconceptions and tragedies is society’s willingness to blame the victim. We must place responsibility for the crimes on the offenders and stop blaming the victims. “Why doesn’t she just leave him?”

There are lots of reasons why women stay. Here are just a few….

She loves the partner, not the violence
She made a commitment she feels she can’t break
She has nowhere else to go
She has no money, or fears the poverty that may result for her and her children if she leaves
Relatives and in-laws want her to stay
She believes her partner can’t get along without her – he may have threatened suicide if she leaves
She wants her children to grow up with their father
She does not have the confidence to believe she can make it on her own
She believes her partner will change
She is afraid or ashamed
She feels guilty and believes the abuse is her fault
She believes she deserves the abuse
She’s afraid for her own and her children’s lives

If you are staying, contact us by phone (above right) and we can help create a safety plan.